Attachment is an emotional connection that you have toward another person. Ideally, you want an attachment to make you feel safe, comfortable, and happy in that person’s presence. The first emotional connections in life are typically to your primary caregivers. Caregivers vary by living situation. They can consist of parents…

I used to think it was a tragedy that my faith disappeared. After years of working on religious trauma recovery, (and still working), I do not think that my faith leaving me is such a tragedy anymore. …

It’s been two years since I lost my ability to believe in God anymore. I’ve grown a lot and I’ve gotten to be okay with it in many ways, but Religious Trauma has left me struggling to find meaning, purpose, a reason, a why for this life. Everything was so…

*may apply to other generations This letter is addressed to Boomer parents (in general but not all), because this is the generation that went through the Jesus Movement as they were having children in the 1970s and 1980s. The Jesus Movement was an intensified, all-in, all-inclusive approach to Christianity. Combine that with fundamentalism in some…

(written January 29, 2020) If you’re new to your faith disappearing or deconstructing, I want you to know time heals. I remember a year ago as if it was yesterday. I woke up one day, and my faith didn’t wake up with me. I opened my eyes one morning and…

(Written January 24, 2020) Last summer, I realized my faith was never coming back, and holding out for any hope for that to happen would only continue to exasperate the traumatic situation. …

(written January, 2020) My earliest memory is being terrified that God was going to send me to hell forever. I was 2–3 years old. I was a toddler. And I deserved to die and go to hell, because I was such a horrible person. …

(written January 2020) A year ago this month I woke up terrified. When I think about it, I can feel the experience as if it just happened. I had this huge emptiness that who I was was missing and I didn’t know how to find it or get it back…

(written January 13, 2020) I’ve left the box of religion and one way to view life and “god.” You can stop asking me to re-enter the box. Stop thinking you’ve got something I absolutely need just because you need it, so you think everybody needs it. We are all unique…